tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8804775617061523743.post454628529416412949..comments2013-02-10T15:52:50.358-07:00Comments on a lovely abode: Miss JanelJanelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12133041783735070475noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8804775617061523743.post-12270424092954654062013-02-10T15:52:50.358-07:002013-02-10T15:52:50.358-07:00Janel,there is such a struggle in our culture for ...Janel,there is such a struggle in our culture for children to respect adults. It is encouraging to see parents working on that in their parenting. I see this as one of the ways the parents are helping their children distinguish between who is "just" one of the kids and who is someone they should look up to. Also, we pastored in the deep south for two years. It was a different culture from northern Indiana and a child would NEVER be permitted to call an adult by their first name down there. We had 3 little tykes then. We wanted to fit into their culture, not the culture we came from. I don't know what the culture is like, you are in the southwest, not the deep south. But in all honesty, you need to show respect to the parents (good) wishes in order to establish a repoire (not sure about that spelling)with them which will in effect, build a repoire with your SS children. Maybe subtly it's 'cause you are no longer a "Miss" ha!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8804775617061523743.post-55280412469956956842013-02-10T13:48:19.960-07:002013-02-10T13:48:19.960-07:00Andy, thanks so much for your perspective and the ...Andy, thanks so much for your perspective and the article! Ultimately, I felt in my heart that I should respect their parents; it is more important for the kids to learn to respect their parents than to call me by my first name. After all, I would want the same example shown for my future children. *sigh* It is certainly a tough pill to swallow, as I still hate being called Miss Janel! Ha! Janelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12133041783735070475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8804775617061523743.post-9582222565154346792013-02-10T13:37:08.918-07:002013-02-10T13:37:08.918-07:00I think that serving in a church is a wonderful th...I think that serving in a church is a wonderful thing, Janel. But it is just that, service. Putting other's needs above your own. Having the mind of Christ Who was obedient and submissive to the point of death, even death on a Cross (Phil 2). The call of the Gospel, in a very real way, is a call to die to self. I think that if you feel called to serve these kids as their Sunday School teacher, then serve them according to the wishes of the ones who will have to give an account for them, their parents. Here's another blogger's perspective on this issue. Check out # 10 on the list: <br />http://www.stevekmccoy.com/reformissionary/2013/02/advice-parenting-young-kids.html<br /><br />I hope that helps! God bless! I'm encouraged to hear that you and Aaron are doing well! Love y'all!Andy Schmitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00741630751252595627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8804775617061523743.post-79605325100845557722013-02-10T13:23:43.025-07:002013-02-10T13:23:43.025-07:00I agree with you. I hate it when people put Mr. in...I agree with you. I hate it when people put Mr. in front of my name. It's also inconsiderate of parents to insist that you be called something that you do not want. Respect isn't about a title, it's about knowing that person and what they prefer. I call a lot of people, Ms., Ma'am, Mr., Sir and the like. I also use a lot of people's first names. It is their preference. Parent's shouldn't be teaching a universal fix-all like Ms. Janel, but should instead be teaching them how to respect people and their wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com